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Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Living For The Present

"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, and today is a gift; that's why they call it the present." -Eleanor Roosevelt

I had a small heart-to-heart chat with one of my closest female friends over the weekend, and she brought up a different perspective I never thought of. She told me that I don't live in the present, especially relationship wise.

She told me that my decisions are influenced too much by either past or the future, and not enough by the present. To elaborate, she told me that I live my life either trying to avoid the mistakes I've made in the past, or to set up my life so it would be convenient for the future. She also advised me that I should make some decisions that makes me happiest now.

I totally agree with her, but chances are, I won't change my lifestyle just because I noticed this about myself. Either way, it's good to actively comprehend why I make the decisions I do, instead of making those decisions on the subconscious level then try to rationalize it by some other reasoning.

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Experiences, Part 2

Continuation from my last post.

I woke up Monday morning, and drove to Bethesda to have lunch with my friend Eddie. He seems fairly happy, got married in Thailand while I was gone. Wow, marriage, whatta step. I guess he's been dating her for a few years, it's his time.

I then drove to Washington Post and visited my old job. Reconnected with a couple of ex-coworkers, and played some foosball with my replacement. My replacement Neil seems to be extremely competent and knowledgeable and I feel like is in good hands.

I started driving back around 3:30. It's somewhat ironic that when I was in DC, I missed my friends in Charlotte that I go visit every long weekend I had, and now I'm doing the same thing, but reversed the cities. Overall, it was a great trip, and my friends were awesome.

Sunday, July 06, 2008

Live From DC - Part One

So I'm spending the July 4th weekend visiting the DC suburbs, hanging out with friends, and a part of me never want this to end. My friends and I did nothing special, same old things we always did. Something about it, feels familiar, feels like "this is how it always should be", but I feel somewhat down because I know it can't last. It's ironic, that while living in DC, I visited Charlotte almost every long weekend I had, trying to relive the "old familiar times" I've had in Charlotte, and now that I live close to Charlotte, I'm doing this with DC.

With Friday being July 4th and taking Monday off, I started the weekend on Thursday night. I attended a party at Andrew's house in Raleigh and crashed there. We had fun, had a BBQ, played drinking games, same old good times. I crashed the night there.

I woke up around 11AM the next day (Friday, July 4th) and hang out for a bit, and left for DC around noon. It took about 5 hours from Raleigh to DC. I called up my friends ZZ and Scott, whom both worked at Washington Post with me, and we did dinner at Scott's place because he was making burgers. I met Scott's semi-new girlfriend Jill for the first time, she's extremely nice and I'm happy for Scott. The four of us went out bar hopping. We started at Clarendon hitting up Whitlows and RiRa, then metro'ed to Dupont. We hit up several bars at Dupont, which I don't remember the names of. ZZ and I ended up going to U-street while Scott and his girlfriend went home. I had a blast, and crashed at ZZ's place.

I woke up around noonish at ZZ's place, called Scott, and the three of us went to lunch at Pho75, a Pho place I used to eat at while working at the Washington Post. Great food as always. After we split up, I hit up Tea Noodle Rice in Courthouse Arlington Virginia, a quick Chinese place across the street from my old office. I used to eat there about twice a week while working at the Washington Post, and I just wanted to drop by and say hi. Since I just ate lunch, I had some bubble tea while chatting up with the owner and the waitress. The food is just like any other Chinese places in America, but the familiarity and the friendliness made me choose that place over other American Chinese places every single time.

I had a small gap before meeting up with this lady friend of mine for coffee in the afternoon, so I hit up Barnes and Nobles to kill an hour and a half. I bumped into another coworker of mine. I really never knew here much aside from the usual "office greeting" while working there. It turned out that she's actually from China a little while back so we had some common things to chat about. She was holding a cookbook. We chatted about it a bit, she's single so she doesn't cook much, but she enjoys looking at different recipes. She asked me about the book I was holding, it was "The Game" by Neil Strauss, a book that made the top 10 selling on the NY Times, about a guy's experiences learning how to pick up women and getting into an underground scene with others who're trying to master the same art. While talking about the book with my coworker, I basically described it as a fiction and an "interesting story". We exchanged cell number and Email addresses, so I can take her out for a drink the next time I'm in town, and I left to meet my friend for coffee.

The coffee "date" went great, we spent about an hour on a couch with her in my arms. We didn't really do much other than a quick kiss here and there since we were in public, but it reminded me of why I liked her. She was smart, educated, and also socially considerate. She's full of compliments, seemed like she cared about and paid attention to what I was talking about, etc. Since I had other plans to hang out with other friends at 6, we parted ways.

I hang out with the group of friends and just sat around and played video games, the same thing we always did, for the next 3 hours. We hit up a diner at 9:30PM, and went out drinking afterwards. We were out having a blast till about 3AM-ish and then stood around in the parking lot of a bar and talking about some random stuff like we always did, then decided to hit up IHop. By the time we were done, we parted ways around 5:30AM. Since my back's still semi-sore from sleeping on the floor at ZZ's place the night before, I went to get a hotel instead of crashing at a random friend's place. A lot those guys live with family and it would be an inconvenience for me to impose on them anyway, so I started driving around looking for a cheap motel. I found a motel for about $100 at around 5:50 for "Sunday Night" because it's Sunday almost at 6AM, and I could check in right now, so I got about 2 night's of sleep worth for $100. Not great, but definitely not bad for the area. I relaxed, washed up, and went to bed around 6:15AM, great Saturday night.

I woke up around 1PM on Sunday since I went to bed around 6ish the night before. I showered up, watched the last 45 minutes of Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets on TV in my motel room, and went out for lunch. I went to the food court of this local mall and it reminded me of living in temp housing, the weekend before I started my job at the Washington Post a little over 2 years ago - I randomly drove around Arlington to learn the area and the mall was the first landmark I found other than my temp housing. I was full of hopes, dreams, and excitement, moving to DC suburb from the Carolinas and obtained the job that was the turning point of my career, not knowing what's going to happen next in the big city, still looking for a place to stay while living in temp housing for 2 weeks, etc. It was great remenicing old times while having lunch. I visited some friends around 3-4ish and we went to a local diner around 7ish, stayed there chilling out till 9:30. It's Sunday night, I'm the only person that didn't have to work the next day so everyone called it a night. It's 10:30, I'm in my hotel blogging, winding down. I'm planning on meeting my freind Eddie for lunch tomorrow around 11-12ish and then visiting the Washington Post office just to say hi to my ex-coworkers, I'm looking forward to it.

So far so good, keep an eye out for the remainder of the trip in the next 2-3 days.