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Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Path In Life

During my usual “motivational research” of reading articles and listening to CD’s of how one should live life, I was re-reminded of a quote for men:

“You should seek your path, figure out who you want to be, where you want to go in life, and then decide who you are going to take with you. If you ever got these two flipped, you’re in big trouble”.

I didn’t understand that quote the first time I read it about 2 years ago, but I’m starting to understand it a little more now. A guy that is without directions in life, but is permanently set on who he’s taking with him, aka married, has the following paths in life:

  • If she has a path in life, then he will follow her path along, forever playing the role that is set for him, in order for her get to where she'd like to be in life
  • If she has a path in life and he gets dragged along, but then discovers his path and they are fairly congruent, then they will “live happily ever after”, fueling each other's passion in life, making each other better.
  • If she has a path in life and he gets dragged along, but then discovers his path and they are fairly divergent, then the marriage has a fairly low chance of surviving. Ideally, no one should compromise his/her direction, path, and goals in life.
  • If nobody develops a path in life, then both people just drift along unfulfilled until one does.

Now that I’ve babbled enough about philosophical stuff, I guess it’s time to share some concrete thoughts. A few of my friends are either married or about to be. Some of them I see have a fairly strong sense of direction in life, know what they want out of life, while some others I see have a weak sense of "self" or an unsure sense of "path".

As for myself, I don’t know where I’m going in life, what I want to do with life, or whom I’d like to be.

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