So I went on the first date with this girl last weekend on Sunday night, and we grabbed some drinks in DC, then walked and chilled out at
Dupont Circle, which is a circle about the size of two basketball courts, with benches around it and a fountain in the middle. We sat on one of the benches, talked for an hour or so, I held her in my arms while we talked, things were going well. We called it a night around 11:30PM and made plans of me seeing her again on Tuesday, and I will pick her up from work (she works 15 min away from my place).
I called her to confirm plans, and asked her to Email me her work address. She asked me where we were going, and my reply was "I don't know, we'll decide when I pick you up". To my surprise, she said "that's not good enough, call me when you have decided where we're going" and hang up on me.
Wow, that was rude. She later on called and left me a voicemail apologizing for it, and I was out so I didn't hear her calling me. To be honest, I don't know if I would've picked up anyway if I heard it.
The next day, she sent me an Email apologizing for it.
"Hey Paul,
I'm still feeling like a bitch here, so I thought I'd drop you a note and explain myself. First, I'll say I shouldn't have hung up on you. That was rude on my part, and there's no excuse for it. But I have to say when I asked you to tell me where you wanted to go by yesterday, I did so for several reasons. And when you said you didn't know or care where we were going... that we would just figure it out when you got here, it sounded a bit as if you're of the "whatever I, Paul, say goes" mindset. Personally, I'm not of that mindset; I don't take orders well. I also think it's much too soon to assume I'm willing to go to some unknown destination in your car with you.
So, again, I'm sorry for hanging up on you. But I was serious about having a day's notice of arrangements before I would go out again.
Joy"
I was in a bad mood at the time due to Google dropping some of my blog's pages into Supplemental Results (Yeah, some of the weirdest things annoy me) so I sent her a polite but not friendly Email back.
"When I said that, I meant "WE can decide when we meet up" as in we'll make that decision together. Just like you not taking orders well, I also don't. So "Get back to me when you decide on something" just isn't going to work, sorry. Remember we were talking about drama in life, and I'm definitely willing to sacrifice happiness to not have drama in life? Well, this is one of the cases.
I wish you the best with everything.
--Paul."
The message was pretty obvious, and she took it maturely. She sent me one last Email and that was the end of it.
"Cool. Best to you, too.
Joy"
Philosophical question here: Am I wrong to "cut people I don't believe should be my friends out of my life"? Or do I just have too high of standards on who I associate myself with? I don't think my standards are too high, just want people in my life that're consider to others and don't play games, and I will give them the same respect. Are all girls spoiled by guys who would do anything to be around them? If so, I blame the guys who get treated like dirt by girls because that "trains" the girls to believe they can treat me the same way and I'll put up with it.